The one I made a Google Form for.

I kept it short. Because if I’m bffr, I wouldn’t fill out a twenty-question form for a stranger… So I shouldn’t expect anyone else to.

I made my form quick, but intentional. Something that took just enough effort to show he was serious.

I wanted to ask questions that actually mattered to me. Not small talk. Not “what do you do?” and “what’s your favorite color?” I wanted questions that dug into what I cared about when screening romantic partners.

A lot of this was informed by a dating book I read, Thank You More Please. The book challenges you to define what you really want in a partner, your core values, and then come up with questions that screen for those exact things. Qualifying questions. That way you’re not wasting time on banter that doesn’t tell you anything about what you’re truly looking for.

So I asked about trying something new, because my life is very much NOT traditional and I knew I needed to screen for someone adventurous.

I asked about what was bringing them joy, because I wanted someone with passions, hobbies, and things they truly cared about.

And I asked open-ended questions, like how they spent a typical weekend. I believe that how someone spends their free time tells you a lot about their priorities. Those answers would let me see whether they touched on the core values I was looking for without prompting.

And when I sent it, I let go of expectations. If I got a dick pic in response? Clearly not my man. If he filled it out thoughtfully? That showed intention and effort. If he ignored it? That was information too. If he thought I was weird? Well, I am weird. And I’m done pretending not to be.

So, here it is. The infamous form. Do with it what you will.